A podcast about gender, identity, orientation, and all the life that happens around them! George is an FtM transgender man, Jess is his pansexual genderqueer wife; they talk parenting, work, and such.

When you're going to encounter a new situation, it's often a good idea to do a little research. We went to LoveLoud, a one-day music festival in Utah that benefits charities supporting LGBTQ youth. The music was great, the host was awesome, and visiting friends in Salt Lake City was wonderful. Visiting the Mormon Temple complex in trans pride clothing was interesting. George isn't stealth at work, but he's not completely out either, so he often ends up in awkward situations answering questions that people could have researched for themselves. When our Child#1 tried to go overseas, it didn't work as well as he'd hoped, but that's an unfortunate side effect of not doing his research.

The links we referenced in today's episode are:
- Entire livestream video link expired, but video of ID performing is at youtube.com/watch?v=2d8c8-OGSzw
- The bathrooms: huffingtonpost.com/entry/loveloud-music-festival-transgender-bathrooms_us_5b60772ce4b0b15aba9d0411

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The process of caring for a relative in hospice is never easy. The process of managing care duties and communicating with extended family and caring for our own kids left us drained, but George's mom is no longer in pain and the responsibilities are getting managed. Now if we could just get all the old people to quit "she"ing him and making themselves look like crazy old people, we'd be good.

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After the shock of being accused of Jess abusing Child#2 and George allowing him to be abused, we found our footing back in reality as the surrounding circumstances began to shed light on the missing parts of the story. Jess didn't hurt her kid, George wasn't neglectful, and Child#2 and his other mom are both bullies who see themselves as victims. The damage is done, and we're still picking up the pieces, but it looks like our family is on the mend, and George's goodness is slightly less infinite but still quite plentiful.

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Child#2 was adopted by George before his transition, in a time when almost nowhere allowed same-sex second parent adoption. In his infinite goodness, he continued to provide his ex a form of joint physical custody, and numerous supports for her to be an effective parent. As a spoonie, she has been in and out of her child's life with no judgment or ill will from us, but the most recent time she came back, she brought all hell with her, and accused Jess of abusing Child#2. Will we be cleared of these allegations? Will we lose our jobs? Will we be able to maintain our marriage?

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Oh, wait, it's pride month? Jess' history with pride events is fairly limited, but George has been to many over the years. From "accidentally" attending a parade in Chicago as an egg-mode high-schooler, to bar hopping in Hawaii, to the first Dyke March in San Francisco, to Child#2 walking in the Trans March in his socks, he's been around the block a bit, but that doesn't stop us from planning for more.

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While trying to manage George's mom's health care (in between all the other nonsense we deal with on a regular basis) we realized that his straight white male privilege doesn't go as far in female-led settings as it does in more heterogeneously gendered settings. Between her previously mentioned broken shoulder, three hospital visits, uncontrolled diabetes, an antibiotic-resistant UTI, c.diff, and three nursing homes, George's mom has had a go of it, and George has been chasing after all her needs as best he can. Which isn't easy, when everyone he interacts with is (understandably) tired of some guy telling them how to do their job!

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Dysphoria sucks. As a genderqueer person, some of our culture's homophobic and transphobic framing of fluidity has seeped into Jess' psyche, as evidenced by their reaction to a recent discussion about their dysphoria. Jess' dysphoria as a nonbinary person is different from George's dysphoria as a binary trans man, but they share some similarities.

George uses STP's made from half-gallon plastic jugs, like those seen in the links below:
- youtube.com/watch?v=TLiaVVihEn4
- youtube.com/watch?v=kmHFvqLuMxU

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George's mom broke her shoulder, Child#2's other mom also had a medical emergency, and both of these things happened on the same day that George had two appointments and Child#2 had one. George's anxiety has anxiety, his mom still can't use the right pronouns and doesn't even recognize him half the time when she percieves him as male, but he still feels spoiled because Jess does his shot. Brightsiding. It helps.

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We have the busy. We had bed bugs. We have less furniture. The changing furniture is not related to the bed bugs. We have still more busy. When we're not busy managing bed bugs, or giving our kid's other mom's old furniture back to her, or parenting, or working, sometimes we like to relax with a book, a movie, a podcast, or a TV show.

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Our challenges are "mildly" increased lately, and by "mildly" we mean completely and entirely. Just like Jess is "mildly" tech-addicted, and George is "mildly" overscheduled. But we stay afloat as we usually do, with lots of "mild" coping humor and the blessing of therapists who aren't gender-dumb.

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George and Jess have been like ships passing in the night lately, often near but rarely interacting with one another, because of extra responsibilities and challenging circumstances. So today, at a distance, we engaged in some "first date" conversation starters, just to re-engage with one another and make sure we could have a conversation.

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While we were at Gallifrey One, we got the opportunity to sit down with one member of the amazing queer Doctor Who pocast, The Web Of Queer. Mikayla is a non-binary aromantic asexual from Ontario, Canada. They were introduced to Doctor Who in 2007, when they started watching it out of self defence in their first year of university. Much to their surprise, they discovered that they actually liked the show everyone was talking about. We got to talking about the infighting among the LGBTQIA+ family and the exclusionary tendencies some folks express toward the Ace and Aro members, as well as the process by which Mikayla came to identify as non-binary and the commonalities of Jess' pansexuality, Mikayla's asexuality, and both of their gender-nonconformity.

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Getting ready to go to Gallifrey One, like any time we need to leave our kids and other responsibilities behind, is always a challenge. It's our one time each year that we genuinely reserve for only ourselves, but we never get to be actually responsibility-free, and it's sometimes more work to prepare the responsibilities to be left than it would be to just stay and manage them. George's work schedule changed, kids and pets needed supervision, the house needed to be cleaned to welcome the supervision, and travel plans needed to be managed. But we got there.

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When Jess and George first met, George noted Jess' odd inability to notice or remember certain details unless they were pointed out. They could tell you the title of that one Star Trek episode with "that one thing that did the thing", but they couldn't remember where they put their glasses or when their next staff meeting was supposed to be. They would vacuum and scrub and dust but leave that once-worn pair of jeans on the arm of the couch for over a week or miss a giant puke stain on the side of the toilet. Jess thought there might be something wrong with themself... Until George finally hit parenting-and-exhaustion parity. Between managing the extra challenges of children moving out and back again, then being in and out of the hospital, then handling kids' behavioural reactions to too all those transitions, his cognitive and motivational capacity has finally hit the level of overload that Jess has lived with for decades. Turns out neither of them is lazy or forgetful, they're just overwhelmed.

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We're blessed today to speak with our favorite "cissy", Peterson Toscano. Through his one-person comedies and lively lectures, he has delighted audiences throughout North America, Europe, and Africa as he takes on social justice concerns. His plays and talks humorously explore the serious topics of LGBTQ issues, sexism, racism, privilege, gender, and climate change. You can learn more about his work at PetersonToscano.com.

We also referenced:

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The holidays happened. As often, in blended families, they happened on the "wrong" day. As often, in *our* family, they came with the usual nonsense of crazy old people, crazy small people, and Jess and George trying not to catch the crazy. Then George took Child#2 and hopped on a plane to his sister's house, where things were amazingly heteronormative, and he didn't catch the crazy but he might have caught the flu.

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George's male privilege has, generally, made his life easier at work, but there are some ways in which the changes haven't made his job easier. Jess' new position has also had gendery oddness, and they have noticed many more effects of privilege, both from gender and from class. But as a teacher, Jess is happy to have created a culture in their classroom that offers students the freedom to be themselves and express their orientations, identities, and other aspects of their selves, in ways that best suit them.

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After her eye surgery, George got five calls in three days from his mother, who really should've called 911 instead of him each time. Jess should know by now to expect George's elderly and increasingly senile relatives to act like toddlers. It shouldn't come as a surprise to them when his aunt has a temper tantrum, or when his mother refuses to use her walker because "I can do it myself!", but here we are.

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TPT#239 - Tilted Flamingos

Flamingoes? Meh. Depression and transition. They are things. They affect one another. George shares his experiences. Jess pokes him. We have a conversation about depression and gender dysphoria. Can you hear George's brainfog? And what is "Gender Lite"? Or is it "GenderLight!!!"? Could we hang Gender Lights on the awning when the Christmas Lights come down?

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George's health has been a challenge for some months now, but things are looking up. Which is good, because his insurance is changing, and it'd be a real challenge to adapt to new providers while still trying to manage that crisis.

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TPT#237 - Manning

No, not that Manning. We're verbing nouns, like "adulting" and "friending", and Ms. Manning is decidedly and intentionally not manning. George, on the other hand, totally is, and has reached that point of passing where everyone acknowledges that he is male, without consciously acknowledging anything at all. From children at a fair to colleagues at work, nobody bats an eye at treating him like "just some guy". Which is kind of awesome.

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George has been responsible for ALL the people for some time now, elderly and juvenile alike, but Child#2 has really made extra cause for responsibility lately, and every Friday is have-a-fit day. Will he try to accuse us of abuse again? Will we be able to maintain our sanity while we help him grow out of this habit? Will he actually pull his processing out of his brainstem long enough to pull his head out of his ass? Your guess is as good as ours.

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In the second part of our conversation with our friend Z, he shares his experiences discovering more about his indigenous heritage, living in a inter-racial relationship, and coming to a broader understanding of faith. We discussed various topics related to racial justice, supporting oppressed minorities, colonialism and capitalism, and all sorts of other ways in which he, and we all, can be overcomers.

Z recommends finding out more about, and if possible supporting, the following organizations/projects:

America In Transition: http://americaintransition.org/

Trans LifeLine: http://www.translifeline.org/

TransLatin@ Coalition: http://www.translatinacoalition.org/

Black Lives Matter: http://blacklivesmatter.com/

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Our long-time friend Z is an FtM activist and long-time advocate for the trans community, the LGBTQIA+ faith community, and communities of color. He appears in the series America In Transition, currently in development. (You should go support this amazing project at americaintransition.org!) In our recent discussion, he recounts his path toward becoming an unlikely activist. Childhood trauma, military service, DADT, living with PTSD, and learning to trust his Spirit, all led him to become the man he is today.

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Jess' new job is amazing, so long as they don't check their email. Entitled parents of entitled children are entitled, and it's driving Jess a little bonkers. George is back to working full time too, and some of the ladies have noticed that he's lost weight. But being sick for four months solid will do that to a person.

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George has a respiratory infection, the kids are getting ready for back-to-school, and Child#2 decided he'd try to get out of trouble by getting Jess in trouble.

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Announcing a scheduling change... TransPanTastic will be moving to a biweekly release format, and our next full episode will be released next week.

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George had a dream. Social isolation and awkwardness were not the dream he wanted. But they got us thinking about various types of social isolation that he has encountered as an introvert, as a trans guy, as a geek, as a convention attendee, as a cis-passing guy, and as all of those things at once.

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George's elderly aunt (who insists that she doesn't have memory problems) has been claiming for months that "they'll send me to the funny farm" for her behaviour. Eventually it became self-fulfilling prophecy. Add his neurotic sister, his elderly mother, and Child#2 into the mix, and George's recovery and attempts to return to work aren't going as smoothly as we'd hoped. But we should know better, by now, than to expect anything to ever go smoothly around here. Thankfully, passing as male improves his chances of having his own health needs considered important by those around him, who are still expecting him to manage everyone else, as life keeps happening and he keeps being the most functional person in the room.

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We've annually chronicled Jess' struggles to find a job that will get them out of elementary and back into working with older students. This year was another trip on the merry-go-round, with popcorn and dominoes thrown in for good measure. Will they escape kindergarten this year?

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George is still recovering from surgery, but the world doesn't quit relying on him while he's down. Child#2 is supposed to be visiting with his other mom, but we're noticing a pattern in the failure rate of those visits. When it comes time to rescue the kid, everyone else is experiencing their own increased failure to function, so it's on us to save the day again.

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There are many aspects of our relationship that are heterogenous. We are a mixed-faith couple, mixed-orientation, and we also come from different generations. Being raised in distinctly different times caused us distinctly different experiences with regards to technology, culture, and gender. Dysphoria was more distinctly gendered for George, in a time when everything was much more gendered, while Jess' more flexible "modern" upbringing didn't highlight the genderedness of their awkwardness.

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George's recovery is going as well as can be expected, when everyone still expects him to manage them. Child#2 is having an especially difficult time managing himself, and the other adults who have charge of him are getting a run for their money. From being suspended the last week of school, to breaking furniture, to pestering his other caregivers for his video game, he just can't give any of us a break!

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George's surgery went better than it could have. Both the pre-admit appointment and the hospital stay went well, and nobody had a visible reaction to his questions about the effect of his trans status on his upcoming surgery. Recovery is a challenge, but nowhere near as hard as it could have been. Nonetheless, dysphoria has a way of finding us, even when things are going well.

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The intersection of lesbian parenting and multi-cultural family life, highlights Vinnie's experiences with gender and discrimination, and we discuss how George's transition has affected his parenting interactions. Returning to their experiences as a non-transitioning female-assigned person in a male-dominated field, Vinnie clarifies a few points and we all discuss our experiences of gender in the workplace. Rambly trans conversation continues!

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Our first ever guest, from Ep#95 and Ep#96, has come back to visit! We mentioned, then, how their new car affected their frequency of traffic stops, but they have since observed the effect of various other drivers in their old truck. Following up on George and Jess' discussion of health care challenges, Vinnie contribues their doctor experiences to our discussion. Then we return to a frequent discussion topic, sexism in the workplace. Long rambly conversation commence!

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As George recovers from his last hospital stay and prepares for his upcoming surgery, he recalls his concerns about his gender and how others will be affected by it. He also expresses a sense of "nakedness" from the lack of bodily self-determination. Then he realizes, all those types of discomfort are part of dysphoria! Jess also recalls experiencing dysphoria that they didn't realize was dysphoria, although their dysphoria is often more social, while George's was more physical. How do we cope with, or work around, discomfort with our respective genders? That's a skill that we've both got a pretty good handle on, but still requires effort at times.

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When George's intestines try to kill him, when Child#3 is a stinky hoarder, when Child#2 has bizarrely unrealistic expectations of us, it's good to be able to use some coping humor. George's ability to cope with strong emotion has increased over his time on HRT, although he still finds his patience has a tendency to disappear abruptly.

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The full version of the last three episodes, with a new outtake from Episode 1!

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TPT#218 - Getting Your Hands On The Substance

On George's fourth manniversary we reminisce about his transgender journey, from the earliest days of his first decision to transition, to the difficulty he had in accessing HRT, and the joy of finally getting the right amount of testosterone in his body. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times:

  • - 0:02:29 - Episode 1: making the decision to transition
  • - 0:04:05 - Episode 1: impatience with access to transition
  • - 0:09:22 - Episode 7: George's "trans narrative"
  • - 0:18:03 - Episode 4: insurance and healthcare access
  • - 0:27:20 - Episode 13: the joy of starting HRT

 

0:36:26 - 1:15:54
TPT#219 - The Royal "We"

Continuing our fourth manniversary trans-in-review, once George finally got HRT started, his body began changing. Once the changes became noticable, it was time to start coming out as male. Coming out to our kids and family was no problem. Working for the government, however, and especially in a small town, meant that nothing could be easy and especially not coming out. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times:

  • - 0:37:18 - Episode 25: early changes on testosterone
  • - 0:45:10 - Episode 20: coming out to the kids
  • - 0:53:26 - Episode 28: trying to prepare for coming out at work
  • - 1:04:25 - Episode 29: finally getting to come out at work

 

1:15:54 - 1:48:35

TPT#220 - Looking Right At Me

In our final installment of George's fourth manniversary reminiscings, we discuss some of the things that are better for George, now that he's regularly percieved as the man he is. From men's rooms and STPs, to clothes and how they fit, to the way he's treated in our culture, life is better for him now than it's ever been. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times:

  • - 1:16:12 - Episode 56: the men's room report
  • - 1:18:51 - Episode 66: packing and STPs
  • - 1:22:51 - Episode 116: finding clothes that fit
  • - 1:26:18 - Episode 138: self-determination, regardless of clothes
  • - 1:37:35 - Episode 120: "safety math" & cultural perceptions
  • - 1:42:04 - Episode 45: social perception, people are weird
  • - 1:44:14 - Episode 89: being treated differently as a man

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In our final installment of George's fourth manniversary reminiscings, we discuss some of the things that are better for George, now that he's regularly percieved as the man he is. From men's rooms and STPs, to clothes and how they fit, to the way he's treated in our culture, life is better for him now than it's ever been. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times:

  • - 01:06 - Episode 56: the men's room report
  • - 03:45 - Episode 66: packing and STPs
  • - 07:45 - Episode 116: finding clothes that fit
  • - 11:11 - Episode 138: self-determination, regardless of clothes
  • - 22:30 - Episode 120: "safety math" & cultural perceptions
  • - 26:59 - Episode 45: social perception, people are weird
  • - 29:08 - Episode 89: being treated differently as a man

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Continuing our fourth manniversary trans-in-review, once George finally got HRT started, his body began changing. Once the changes became noticable, it was time to start coming out as male. Coming out to our kids and family was no problem. Working for the government, however, and especially in a small town, meant that nothing could be easy and especially not coming out. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times:

  • - 01:42 - Episode 25: early changes on testosterone
  • - 09:37 - Episode 20: coming out to the kids
  • - 17:54 - Episode 28: trying to prepare for coming out at work
  • - 28:55 - Episode 29: finally getting to come out at work

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On George's fourth manniversary we reminisce about his transgender journey, from the earliest days of his first decision to transition, to the difficulty he had in accessing HRT, and the joy of finally getting the right amount of testosterone in his body. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times:

  • - 02:29 - Episode 1: making the decision to transition
  • - 04:05 - Episode 1: impatience with access to transition
  • - 09:22 - Episode 7: George's "trans narrative"
  • - 18:03 - Episode 4: insurance and healthcare access
  • - 27:20 - Episode 13: the joy of starting HRT

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Health care is a complicated subject, and getting health care as a transgender person can be even more so. Is the doctor choosing not to touch your body because she's bigoted, or just inept? Is a nurse being snotty because he's tired after a long shift, or because he took a look at your records? As George ages, health care interactions are going to become more frequent, and it's important that his providers are all capable and competent to work with populations of all genders. The good news is, his intestines tried to kill him just in time to have a day off for the mad rush on Gallifrey One hotel reservations! 

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TPT#216 - Ground Zero

We got Child#0 to sit down with us at the mic, and we discussed their process of discovering their identity as agender. Egg mode made a traumatic childhood more traumatic, but George and his then wife's welcoming home helped them begin to recover. They are still recovering, and as they come to a larger understanding of human gender, the recognition that "there are others like me and I'm not just broken" is something that many of us can identify with. George took a binary backseat for most of the conversation, as the genderqueer folks discussed their identities and experiences.

Dara Hoffman-Fox's book is currently being reissued by a new publisher and is available for preorder at DiscoverYourGenderIdentity.com.

Ivan Coyote has written and performed a number of amazing pieces on the nature of gender and the way it is percieved by western culture, but the ones we referenced today are at dailyxtra.com/vancouver/dear-lady-in-the-womens-washroom-4771 and slate.com/blogs/outward/2014/04/11/transgender_in_public_bathrooms_why_does_our_safety_always_come_second.html.

We used the problematic terms "fag" and "faggy" as shorthand for a stereotype of an effeminate gay male. We understand that as a reclamation term it is generally expected to be used only by members of a minority of which we may not be percieved to be a part. For a fuller explanation of cultural expectations around reappropriation of slurs, check out a great piece by the late Matt Kailey at mattkailey.wordpress.com/2014/02/17/ask-matt-three-criteria-for-reclaiming-harmful-language. We chose to retain this term in today's conversation because it exemplifies the conflation of gender and orientation that is common in western culture and against which we still struggle in our own processing. 

The pictures Jess showed Child#0 of presentations they identify with are:

Jeffrey Marsh

and

Jacob Tobia

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George is a gnome, and heteronormativity is weird AF. The human brain has a propensity to fill in gaps in available knowledge with inferences based on prior experience. We categorize things and synthesize ideas to assign meaning to things we don't fully understand. But when someone's entire experience is comprised of only one type of experience, they may apply inaccurate preconceptions to those of us whose existence has been primarily outside of a majority or mainstream.

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TPT#214 - Mill Salsa

TSA PreCheck is a great benefit to people who transition. We highly recommend it, if it's available to you. It made a lot of our recent travel less stressful, as has George's male presentation. 

Child#0 is a great benefit to our sanity as we deal with nonsense caused by both the nine-year-old toddler and the seventy-year-old toddlers. And we finally get them onto the mic! (We refer to Child#0 as "her" in this, and a couple more future episodes, but it is worth noting that they have, since the time of recording, expressed an identification with the pronoun "they".) When Child#2 insists on alternative facts, reacting against routine and structure after having had none, subconsciously desiring that sense of safety in boundaries that children often seek through testing and pushing their parents' limits, it's great to have Child#0 as another sane adult with whom to check our reality.

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When We Rise is a docudrama miniseries, in four double-episodes, that highlights specific leaders in, and key moments of, the American historical struggle for LGBTQIA+ equality. After watching it, we reminisced about our own experiences as we lived through many of the events that were explored in the show, and how George's experiences with the Gay and Lesbian communities in his young adulthood were shaped by his gender, even in egg mode.

You can watch When We Rise at http://abc.go.com/shows/when-we-rise

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The lots-o-travel month has come to an end, and George thought he could finally get back to being productive at work. But he was wrong. Thankfully, his male privilege made life easier when trying to help problem-solve for a family member who was caught driving down the highway in the wrong direction! 

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When Child#2 went to stay with his mother at Christmas break, we knew there was a possibility that he would be back. We knew that his mother's family were rich, entitled, control freaks. We knew he was a bigger challenge than they were expecting. That doesn't change our disappointment that he won't get the care he was promised. Happy spring break, friends!

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That new dick we mentioned a couple weeks back? Yeah, George tried it. Medical adhesive mishaps and prosthetic penis shenanigans ensued. Fun was had. And by fun, we mean awkwardness and discomfort. 

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